1. When I see a sexually attractive person I am a) aroused b) interested c) cool.

2. I try to find out a person's reaction to me a) right away b) in the course of our first meeting c) at some future time.

3. If the person is interested I a) deliberately engineer our next meeting b) hope our next meeting will occur soon c) wouldn't go out of my way to find out when we might next meet.

4. When we do meet again I a) make a strong play b) make my continued interest apparent but not obvious c) play it cool.

5. To keep a person interested in me sexually I keep the sexual motif in dress, conversation and gestures a) strong b) subtle but constant c) underplayed.

6. Friendship between a man and a woman a) always has a sexual base b) is usually sexual but may be platonic c) becomes sexual only if one of the two gives it a sexual bias.

7. If a peron of the opposite sex made a tactful, but obvious, sexual proposition I would be a) flattered b) flustered c) insulted.

8. I can have a satisfying sexual relationship a) without love b) only if I pretend that I am in love c) only if I am in love with my sexual partner.

9. Even though my physical capability may decrease with age I believe that my sexual interest will a) increase b) remain roughly what it is now c) diminish.

10. When I look back at my teen years I a) feel I'm far more sexually alive now b) know I have still maintained my sexual awareness c) whish I could be a teenager again, because those were the best years. 11. I had my first sexual experience with a person of the other sex a) before I was.

11. b) after 11 but before 13 c) between 13 plus and 15 d) between 15 plus and 19 e) after 19.

12. This first experience was a) initiated by me b) a mutual thing c) initiated by the other person.

13. That first experience was a) stimulating and I wanted more b) stimulating but I was scared off sex for a while c) unsatisfactory.

14. My next sexual experience occured a) within a week of my first b) after a week but within a month c) after a month but within three months d) after three mohts but within six months e) after six months but within a year f) after a year.

15. Masturbation is a) satisfying and often necessary b) satisfying but never necessary c) satisfying but often harmful d) not satisfying at all.

16. When I was an adolescent, or a teenager, I have been sexually attracted to persons of my own sex a) often b) sometimes c) once d) never.

17. As an adolescent or a teenager I have had a homosexual or lesbian experience a) often b) on a few occasions c) once d) never.

18. I feel that homosexuals and lesbians should a) be allowed to live their own lives b) be pitied and cured c) to be prosecuted for their perversion.

19. Teenage affairs are a) a good preparation for life b) a necessary evil c) an unmitigated evil and shouild be prevented by all means.

20. Now that I am older, when I think back on my first sexual experience a) I would like to repeat it to see how it would feel now b) it might be interesting to repeat, but why rake up the past? c) I wouldn't like to go through that again.

21. From the age of 20 till today I have been sexually caressed by (Exclude those with whom you have had sexual intercourse) a) more than 10 people b) between 5 and 10 inclusive c) between 2 and 4 inclusive d) only 1 person e) none.

22. In this period I have had sexual intercourse with a) more than 10 people b) between 5 and 10 inclusive c) between 2 and 4 inclusive d) only 1 person e) none.

23. I first had sexual intercourse when when I was a) under 15 years of age b) between 15 and 18, inclusive c) between 19 and 24, inclusive d) after 24 e) I have not, as yet, had sexual intercourse.

24. Of the people with whom I had intercourse a) more than 10 are now married b) between 5 and 10, inclusive, are now married c) between 2 and 4, inclusive, are now married d) only 1 person is now married.

25. When I had intercouse with them a) more than 10 were married b) betwee 5 and 10, inclusive were married c) between 2 and 4, inclusive, were married d) only one person whas married e) none were married.

26. During my extra-marital affairs I have become pregnant, or made my partner pregnant a) more than 10 times b) between 5 and 10, inclusive, c) between 2 and 4, inclusive d) only once e) never.

27. Of these extra-marital pregnancies a) more than 10 children were born b) betwen 5 and 10 children were born c) between 2 and 4 children were born d) only one child was born e) no children were born.

28. I was responsible for the termination of (You need have not done it yourself, and restrict yourself to the pregnancies you caused, or underwent.) a) more than 10 pregnancies b) between 5 and 10 pregnancies c) between 2 and 4 pregnancies d) only one pregnancy e) no pregnancies.

29. My past experience has led me to treat sex with a) enthusiasm b) delight but caution c) great care.

30. I believe sex is best used for a) pleasure b) mutual awareness between the sexual partners c) procreation.

31. Birth Control is a) essential b) a necessary evil c) totally unacceptable unless a 'natural' method is used.

32. Birth Control is the responsibility a) the man b) both partners c) the woman.

33. During foreplay, Birth Control measures are a) an awkward interruption b) totally unacceptable c) fun, because they can be made part of the game.

34. I prefer a) the pill b) condoms c) a diaphragm d) the loop or IUCDs e) an operation f) suppositories, foams or jellies g) coitus interruptus h) the 'natural' method i) none of the methods listed above.

35. Thanks to the effectiveness of modern Birth Control methods a) sex has become fun b) there is some hope of controlling the population explosion c) society has become permissive.

36. Regardless of its practical advantages, I believe Birth Control has a) opened up new vistas of sex outside the narrow marriage bond b) robbed sex of a certain spontaneity c) become mutual masturbation.

37. Birth Control has done much to dispel sexual fears and taboos. This, in itself, is a a great leap forward b) a mixed blessing c) a dangerous thing.

38. Sexual fears and taboos a) are blind superstition b) are distilled wisdom based on practical experience c) are the inner promptings of man, a higher warning which it is dangerous to ignore.

39. Sexual fears and taboos are, basically a) the same all over the world b) tailored to suit a specific set of circumstances c) irrelevant in a modern context.

40. By diminishing sexual fears and taboos, Birth Control has made marriage a) a more stable and satisfying bond b) face considerable extra-marital competion c) nothing more than licensed prostitution.

41. I believe that a monogamous marriage is a) the ideal but not very practical b) a very practical relationship c) absurd and quite unnecessary.

42. Sexual exclusiveness, between marriage partners is a) a most workable system b) a social hangover which will change c) entirely impractical in the modern world.

43. Extra-marital relationships, generally a) improve a marriage b) put a strain on a marriage c) destroy a marriage.

44. In my marriage I would like to a) have no extra-marital affairs b) have extra-marital affairs by mutual consent c) have extra-marital affairs as a matter of right.

45. Number, on order of perference, your choice of the listed alternatives to traditional marriage. Or indicate that none of these appeal to you a) Group Marriage: two or more couples sharing partners in a stable marriage relationship b) Partner Swapping: individual couples maintain their separate homes but meet only to exchange partners for temporary sex c) Casual Partners: occasional sexual partners are introduced into an otherwise traditional marriage; the outside partners might be single or married but the essential feature is that the relationship with the outsiders is transient and casual.

46. When my sexual partner touches me in affection, and in public, I a) welcome it b) like it but feel awkward c) resent it because there is a time and place for everything.

47. When my sexual partner makes a play for another person in public, even though I know it is only in fun, I a) get jealous b) feel a little hurt but accept it c) am amused and proud.

48. When my sexual partner and I are separated temporarily I a) am certain that my partner will not have a sexual escapade with another person b) am reasonably confident of my partner's fidelity, but not absolutely certain c) couldn't care less what my partner does d) permit my partner to browse in other pastures.

49. Sexual encounters are a) ego building and should be spoken about openly b) interesting and can be spoken about to close friends c) private affairs and should remain so.

50. An extra-marital relationship in the modern world is a) still a private thing b) not as private as it used to be but is still something that shoulde revealed only to one's friends c) an accepted relationship which need not be concealed.

51. Revealing clothes are worn by a) all people who think young b) people who want to run with the herd regardless of their personal attributes c) exhibitionists.

52. If I was with a group of men and women, some of whom I did not know very well, and we saw a topless woman, I would a) point her out as just another interesting sight b) feel awkward and say nothing c) try to divert my group's attention away from the exhibitionist woman.

53. A person of my sex, whom I know very slightly, is sitting awkwardly, revealingly, without knowing it, I would a) tell a few friends so they might also take in the view b) feel awkward and keep it to myself c) find a mutual friend and pass the word back to the exposed person d) approach the person and discreetly mention it to them.

54. What would I do in situation 53 if the person were of the opposite sex.

55. In a resort the men's bathroom is separated from the women's stall by a thin wall. As I am drying myself in the shower-stall I see two eyes peering at me through an old pipe-duct let into the dividing wall. I would a) continue to dry myself making sure they got the best view possible b) back against the wall and finish drying myself hurriedly c) wrap the towel around me, grab a robe, and exit.

56. At a friend's home I walk into a room and find two people makeing love and know that they've seen me. I a) say 'Sorry' and close the door behind me b) back out hurriedly, but stay on in the party c) leave the party to avoid facing them when they come out of the room.

57. I go to a picnic without a partner and find everyone pairing off and vanishing behind the dunes. Only one person of the opposite sex is left. I have just met that person. I a) say 'Care to come for a walk?' hoping that an interesting sexual encounter will develop b) sit down beside the person, in the open, and talk c) stretch out where I am and go to sleep.

58. After the swim they want to take a group photograph with everyone wearing masks and nothing else. I would a) try and get in the front row b) try and conceal some of my nudity behind somebody else c) say I couldn't join because I was shivering and a cramp would build up right away unless I got dressed immediately.

59. When we get back to the host's home, the lights are doused, we sit on the floor in couples, and blue films are shown. The couples around me are obviously uninhibited. I would a) grab the opportunity and do likewise b) proceed cautiously because I have only just met my partner c) switch off: I can't take public sex.

60. Erotic movies are a) Exciting b) OK if you have the right company c) turn me off.

61. Erotic photographs are a) best viewed in private with the right companion b) best viewed alone c) sick.

62. Well written erotic literature is a) exciting b) interesting c) at best, strictly for masturbators.

63. The number of erotic books I have read is a) over 10 b) between 5 and 10 inclusive c) between 2 and 4 inclusive d) one e) none.

64. My sexual fantasies, or erotic day dreams occur a) often b) occasionally c) seldom d) never.

65. When I'm sexually attracted by a person I daydream about us a) holding hands b) kissing c) carressing d) making love.

66. When I do fantasize about sex I imagine us dressed in exotic clothes a) often b) occasionally c) seldom d) never.

67. I imagine us making love before an admiring audience a) often b) occasionally c) seldom d) never.

68. I imagine myself making love to a number of persons of the opposite sex, at the same time a) often b) occasionally c) seldom d) never.

69. When I have vivid sexual fantasies I find my body responding to my mental pictures a) strongly b) mildly c) never.

70. I prefer sexual foreplay to start a) long before we reach the place where we are going to make love b) only when we're alone but before we reach the bedroom c) only after we reach the bedroom.

71. Foreplay should be started by a) the man b) either of the partners c) the woman.

72. I am stimulated if foreplay is started a) boldly by a word or touch withch everyone could understand if they heard it or felt it b) in public, but secretly by words or gestures which only we know are erotic c) subtly, like the sound of distant music.

73. In love making, pain plays a) an important part b) on occasional role c) no part at all, unless you're a pervert.

74. The use of erotic words and sounds in foreplay a) excites me b) does not upset me but I do not use them myself c) turns me off.

75. During foreplay I like a) bright lights b) soft illumination c) darkness.

76. Dressing up erotically is a) exciting b) OK for my sexual partner but not for me c) absurd.

77. The use of vibrators, brushes, gloves and other equipment during foreplay is a) fun b) OK for a change c) perverse.

78. Fellatio and Cunnilingus are a) normal and exciting b) OK for a change c) unnatural and sickening.

79. With me foreplay normally lasts a) under half an hour b) half an hour to an hour c) an hour to two hours d) over two hours.

80. Ideally, with me, intercourse normally lasts a) under 15 minutes b) 15 minutes to a half an hour c) a half an hour to 1 hour d) over 1 hour.

81. In intercouse I prefer a) the man on top and the woman below b) the woman on top and the man below c) a variety of positions.

82. If I had my way I would enjoy intercouse most a) in a bed b) on the floor c) in the open d) in unusual places.

83. The movements in intercourse should be a) quick and passionate b) varied c) slow and controlled.

84. If I see myself in a mirror during intercourse it a) excites me b) amuses me c) embarrasses me.

85. During intercourse I normally a) fantasize b) think only of my lover c) lose myself in the sensations of lovemaking.

86. I believe that learning to control the muscles used in intercourse is a) well worth the effort b) possibly worth while if we could find the time c) pointless in our modern world.

87. I feel that moments of stillness, without movement, at the peak of intercourse a) enhance the ecstasy of intercourse b) help to prolong intercourse c) are an unnecessary interruption.

88. Intercourse without orgasm a) can be ecstatic in a very special way b) might be necessary but does not add to the pleasure of intercourse c) is incomplete and might be dangerous.

89. In intercourse it is essential to a) seek your own satisfaction because your partner's satisfaction will follow as a matter of course b) keep your pleasure in line with your partner's c) seek your partner's ecstasy because then yours will follow.

90. The ecstasy of sex lies in a) the body b) the glands c) the mind.

Because Communication Is Everything

Print this out or email to prospective partners and eliminate some of the confusion about their wants, needs, preferences before you get down. After all, there is nothing more intimate than putting part of your body into other's, or receiving another's bodily appendages within you, so if they can't or won't be straight up about how they feel about these broad issues, than they probably shouldn't be having sex.

For example, I want to know how my partner would handle the responsibility of birth control up front. This is because, while I love that it is available for all women, I know I do not want to have an abortion. In the event that I did become pregnant at an inopportune time and needed an abortion, I expect my partner to pay for it in total and need to know that he understands that. He doesn't suffer half of the experience, and the suggestion that we "Go Dutch" on the financial end (the easy part, imo) would be insult on injury.

Eliminate some of the guesswork about how far you can go, or NOT go, to thrill them to ectasy. Or find out if you'd be better off without them, before they've had the pleasure.